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Getting To We Books for 2025

Here are some great reads for 2025 that inspire us to turn us and them into WE in places where we live, work, serve, worship, and socialize.

Harriet Tubman: Live in Concert by Bob the Drag Queen

If the title and author makes you go ‘Hmmmm…” then reading this book will make you go “WOW”. With creativity, wit and brilliance by author Bob the Drag Queen, historical abolitionist Harriet Tubman magically comes back and wants to create a hip-hop album and live show about her life . She engages Darnell, a hip-hop producer and song writer who once was on the top of the charts until he is backstabbed in the industry. Together, Darnell and Harriet and her team of musicians remix history in a way that you will learn, laugh and be in awe.

This Thing of Ours by Frederick Joseph

This is a YA (young adult age 12-18) novel with themes that resonate with adults from 18 through seniors. Seventeen-year-old Ossie Brown, was once the future LeBron James at his affluent, predominately
White private school until a torn ACL ends his basketball career . With the help of a Black teacher he pivots to a prestigious Mark Twain Writing Program in the school. Told through powerful conversations and with scenes that put the reader in them, Ossie is deluged by the flood of anti-woke students and parents. The revolution and resolution will give you hope for the future and confidence in Generation Z.

Gather Me: A Memoir in Praise of the Books That Saved Me by Glory Edim

Great memoirs have a relatable narrator, a strong narrative arc, vivid scenes, and a clear thematic focus, all presented with honesty and vulnerability. Give Glory Edim an A+. Edim is the founder of Well Read Black Girl, a literary community dedicated to Black women. The anthology of the same name and her memoir resonate with anyone who is a book lover, has experienced the career challenges, gone through a few relationship issues, knows the ups and downs of parenting and just getting through life.,

The Power of Bridging: How to Build a World Where We All Belong by john a.powell

john a. powell, Director of the Othering & Belonging Institute at U.S. Berkeley, describes bridging as “a salve for out fractured world.” In this instructive and inspiring book he shares his own journey to belonging, helps us to understand just exactly what is belonging. He makes a strong argument for the power of bridging and how to be a breeder in today’s polarizing society. This book could not be more aligned with Getting To We’s mission, vision and values.

Say I’m Dead: A Family Memoir of Race, Secrets, and Love by E. Dolores Johnson

Today, in the U.S., about 17% of newlyweds are in interracial marriages.. That’s 1 in 6, a significant increase from the time when Johnson’s parents married in 1942.. I have had this book on my shelf for years and picked it up now with the hope that it would have rich nuggets for how we come together across racial lines on an interpersonal level that would lead to a positive impact on a group and societal level. This book doesn’t disappoint. With instructions to say that she “was dead,” Johnson’s White mother reluctantly gives her permission to research the White side of her family in her effort to understand her racial identity as an adult biracial woman. Successful by every other marker in her adult developmental process, having this information is critical to her understanding of her full identity. Through her racial identity resolution process Johnson demonstrates the power of truth and reconciliation.

Belonging Without Othering: How We Save Ourselves and the World by john a.powell and Stephen Menendian

The subtitle says it all. A companion to The Power of Bridging, Powell is joined by colleague Memndian in a thorough and academically substantive understanding of justice in the context of belonging and othering. It is inspiring call to action for anyone interested in making a more just and inclusive society.

The Power of Memory Work: Learning from the Germans

A negative Covid test under any circumstances is cause for celebration but I was especially thrilled to see only a marked C strip on the test card after a week of Covid symptoms. It meant that I was clear to take a long-planned trip to Berlin as part of the Visiting Program of Widen the Circle. Widen the Circle’s mission is to combat hate through a shared understanding of the past. The Visiting Program is one of their signature initiatives designed to build bridges between educators and activists in the U.S. and Germany. Thought leaders on both sides of the Atlantic are invited to the program to use the power of the local history to learn how to combat racism and prejudice as well as deal with the historic legacies of injustice.

I was honored to be a part of this learning and personal growth experience, but I gotta tell you, the program was intense—not only in its schedule but in the learning. We visited numerous memorials and historical sites. The week-long program included a visit to Anne Frank museum, a walking tour of central Berlin Jewish quarter, a tour of West Berlin Jewish history, a visit to the House of the Wannsee Conference (the site of the meeting where senior Nazi bureaucrats organized “the Final Solution to the problem of the Jews”), an inspiring and moving visit to community school and a deportation site memorial with Sabeth Schmidthals, walking tour of Leipzig and Erich Zinger House, a hike (literally) of historical sites related to the Nazi period deportation of Jews, a visit to Döbeln meeting young activists, seeing the award-winning Yellow Brick Memory Project that inspired the work of Bryan Stevenson and others in the U.S., meeting with Citizens for the Badehaus (one of the largest displaced persons camps for Jewish survivors in post-war Europe), and visiting a center for refugees. WHEW!

Our program text was Susan Neiman’s Learning from the Germans, which I would highly recommend and a number of other books, podcasts, and articles.

Although I am still unpacking the experience, here’s a bit of what I learned from the program:

The Power of Memory Work Lies in Connecting the Past to Present:

As a psychologist, I conceptualize memory work as a process for how we acquire, store, retain and retrieve information. As a methodology used by German researchers and activists, memory work is a process of engaging with the past in an accurate and ethical way. For memory work to have sustainable impact, accurate recording of history not only has be available in books, memorials, and artifacts, but we have to experience the learning in such a way that we connect the past to the present. Connecting the past to the present isn’t a cerebral exercise. We have to have meaningful dialogue with others about how we’ve received, interpreted, and connected that information to our own lived experience. The power of memory work lies in identifying the similar threads from the past in order to create a better future for all of us. We need to ask, How does this historical pattern show up today? Susan Neiman’s book does a masterful job of showing how Germany’s efforts to atone for the crimes of the Holocaust are being, and can be used, in the U.S. as we deal with our horrid history of enslavement of people of African descent and the colonization of Indigenous People.

Felt History or Emotional History Remind Us That People Make History:

In many ways, keeping the memory of the people who lived these truths alive is just as important (or even more important, in my humble opinion) as what gets recorded in history books. The bios behind each of the Stumbling Stones found in Germany and all over Europe are gentle and powerful reminders that people make history. Keeping the memory of those who walked the paths in those traumatic and horrific times is critical to our understanding of how communities are shaped today. In many ways, the U.S., particularly the Deep South, is still working through the strong and intense emotional reaction to the brutally murdered, 14-year-old Emmett Till by White Supremacists, and whose body was left disfigured in his open casket at the insistence of his mother, Mamie Till Mobley. “I couldn’t bear the thought of people being horrified by the sight of my son. But on the other hand, I felt the alternative was even worse. After all, we had averted our eyes for far too long, turning away from the ugly reality facing us as a nation. Let the world see what I’ve seen.”Just as the Stumbling Stones are a reminder of the individuals who were brutally murdered, we need to keep fixing our gaze on the ugly reality of racism and bigotry and see the face of Emmett Till in every injustice.

You Cannot Remember Alone:

I learned this truth from Gabriele Hannah who uses the power of narrative to fight bigotry and hate by keeping the memory alive of German Jews in the Rhine-Hesse district region whose communities were destroyed by the Nazis. She told us “you have to come together to understand the other side—that is the only way we can reconcile. I am not responsible for what has happened in the past, but I am responsible for what is going to happen in the future. Bigotry didn’t end in 1945 . These people had families before that and have a family now.” “ It’s not about forgiveness,” she continues, “pity is feeling sorry that they were subjects of this horrid history. Empathy is required. You can’t understand the death of 6 million unless you know one of them.” Keeping collective memory alive in our minds and hearts changes how we act today. Those who remember and know, don’t act like those who don’t know.

Arts and Culture are Important Memory Markers:

As an effort to align German arts and culture with Nazi ideas, thousands of books considered to be “un-German” were burned by the Nationalist German Student Association at Bebelplatz in 1933. We visited The Empty Library memorial on the grounds of Humboldt University. The square memorial symbolizes knowledge that was destroyed.  Heinrich Heine, one of Germany’s greatest poets, who was of Jewish origin, wrote “Where they burn books, they will also ultimately burn people.” I was reminded that scholar and civil rights activist W.E.B Du Bois studied at Humboldt University for two years and there is a memorial marker there in his honor. As Germany continues to recognize and honor his legacy, book banning efforts by right wing extremists targeted at racial and sexual identities are spreading across the U.S. May the Empty Library be a not-so-gentle reminder for why we need to pay attention to the book banning efforts in the U.S, and take them seriously.

Memory Gets Translated into Law, Politics, and Culture:

History lives in our laws, political ideologies, and especially in our culture. It’s debatable if history is written by the victors or by those trained in documentation. Either way, history lives most vividly in culture. Historical facts can be downplayed or reinterpreted or even denied, as the horrific acts of the Holocaust have been. We can diminish reality or omit facts or promote inaccurate interpretations as the United States has done with much of its written account of slavery, but the memory of this history still lives on in the culture. In Germany, public denial of the Holocaust is criminalized. This includes sharing images such as swastikas, wearing an SS uniform, and making statements in support of Hitler. These laws are rooted in the memory work of Germany’s history and identity and are in response to resurgence of far right extremist ideology.In contrast, there are states in America working to ban discussions of Critical Race Theory The discussion bans also extend beyond race to LGBTQ+ issues. Banning these discussions do not change our racist history and contemporary manifestations of systemic racism, heterosexism, homophobia, and transphobia. Without doing psychological and cognitive memory work, these isms and phobia only grow.For example, many confederate statues and flags, symbols of White Supremacy and White Nationalism, have been removed following the Unite the Right Rally in Charlottesville and the murder of George Floyd. Yet, over 700 statues remain and confederate flags are widely flown all of the South and in the North. There are those who claim these statues and flags simply commemorate Southern history and culture. Yet, there is little doubt that these memorials serve to sanction and keep alive racist attitudes in U.S. culture. Just as the Holocaust memorials serve to impact the state of liberal democracy present in Germany today, building the capacity as a nation for important discussions about Critical Race Theory and LGBTQ+ rights. as well of the presence of Confederate statues and flags are foundational to understanding our American identity, These discussion should not be denied, dismissed, or side-lined in public spaces, especially in educational settings.

My Learning from the Germans

We can learn from the Germans that first you have to acknowledge, then you can heal, then you can connect across our shared humanity. Widen the Circle’s Visiting Program taught me that memory work is not a step-wise, one-and-done process. We build social trust with every cycle of acknowledging, healing, and connecting. Memory defines who we are in our individual and collective identities. Learning these truths with the thought leaders and activists in Germany provided me not only with a better shared understanding of history, but brought me closer to our shared identity as humans. That’s the power of memory work.

Let’s Keep Talking About Racism: 10 Tips for How to Do That

Talking about racism in our current political climate has become more explosive and confrontational than ever before. That’s all the more reason why we have to meet the challenge, keep the conversation going, and work toward turning us and them into we. Yet, having conversations that are forward-moving and that position us as effective antiracists are not easy.

Here are some tips for fostering forward-moving conversations about racism:

Don’t back away from difficult conversations:

When baffled or completely gobsmacked about something someone has said, simply pause and with the most inviting tone you can muster, ask the person to “Say more about…” or “Tell me what informs your thinking…”

Remain curious:

Try these phrases… “I’m genuinely trying to understand where you are coming from…” or “I’m curious about this part of what you just said…”

Share your truth:

Own your reality with these sentence starters. “My experience has been…” “My stake in this is…” “From my window it looks like…” “My want for the outcome is…”

Challenge firmly and respectfully:

Focus on areas of disagreement in an inviting manner. Some examples to state your position… “What stands out for me is…” “Help me understand how…”

Confront falsehoods and lies:

Use the broken record technique and just keep repeating “That is not true.” “That is a lie.” “That has been proven to be false.” “This is not a matter of perspective. It’s a fact.”

Break down false equivalencies:

Related behaviors do not have equal weight when it comes to human rights. “Comparing apples to oranges” is not acceptable. They are both fruit, yet they are so different that the comparison is invalid. For example, the Black Lives Matter protests are based on the enduring truth of systemic racism. The Stop the Steal riots are based on the big lie that there wasn’t a free and fair election in the United States.

Manage tone and volume:

Use words that demonstrate intensity and passion instead of foul language and shouting that generally distracts from your intended message and puts the focus on you as the messenger. Try using “I’m committed to…” “I have no tolerance for…” “That is despicable…” “I strongly believe…” “I’m not at all confused about…”. “I find those statements offensive…”

Honor any points of agreement:

When the conversation is forward moving and headed toward mutual understanding, keep it going by statements such as “I appreciate that…” “We are both on the same page about…” “Let’s start from this value that we both share…”

Challenge your own assumptions:

Avoid righteousness by acknowledging your experiences without judgment on their worth as a person. Simple statements like “Correct me if I am wrong…” “This may be an and/also conversation…” help to bridge a divide.

Practice self-care:

Evaluate if the squeeze is worth the juice. Is this the right person, time, or situation for this conversation? When there is dysfunctional thinking, a lack of openness, or inflexibility, sometimes you just have to give that person a silent blessing and move on.

Discussion Highlights

Readers found the tips practical and actionable, highlighting the importance of listening, curiosity, and consistent effort in ongoing conversations about race. Many appreciated personal stories and reflected on challenges in workplaces and daily life.

“Wow, good thought starters for me. I often go right to anger, and judgement, which stops conversations and puts the focus on me. instead of trying to bring the discussion to light.” — Harriet Petti

“Thank you, I really hope to have thoughtful and firm conversations when it is needed – recently in line up in the post office and in my apartment building with a neighbour people said stuff to me in a way that I could tell they assumed I would agree…so I had to say something and I felt I made it half way to how I wanted to be able to be. This will help me stay in a conversation so it does not end so abruptly or in a way where we remain so far away. I find conversation a bit challenging at the best of times so I really appreciate your sharing. Your writing inspires me and this is also my chance to say thank you for all you share.” — Siobhan Avery, Port Coquitlam BC

6 Must Read Books for Understanding Racial Inequities

Books have always been a critical aspect of my educational journey. During the summer months of my youth, absent the financial resources for day camps, my mother decided that our educational enrichment would consist of visiting our county library located at the end of our street where she made joining the summer book club mandatory. There, with the guidance of wonderful librarians, I was introduced through books to a world very different from my beloved inner-city neighborhood. I was a willing recipient eager to read just about anything they recommended. Today, my love of books remains strong and I am always happy to receive great recommendations.

Especially in the DEIB space (diversity, equity, inclusion and belonging), books have a way of helping us come further to the truth… our own and others. Books help to sharpen our thinking, challenge our assumptions, and expand our world views. Books can enlighten and inspire us to engage more with each other on issues that matter. Books are an important component of #Getting to We.

Understanding racial inequities is a complex topic that often makes us feel uncomfortable because they continues to exist and persist. I have chosen these six books because they ease the discomfort by turning discomfort into insight. With insight we can then adjust or change our thinking and behavior in order to make a difference in our world. I have chosen a favorite book in six areas central to understanding racial inequities: the achievement gap in education, healthcare disparities, housing discrimination, the wealth gap, voter suppression and criminal justice reform. I invite you to share other titles in each of these categories that you have found helpful. Enjoy reading, learning, and discussing!

Achievement Gap in Education

I had never heard of the theoretical orientation of abolitionist teaching before reading Bettina Love’s book. She describes it as “the practice of working in solidarity with communities of color while drawing on the the imagination, creativity, refusal, (re)membering, visionary thinking, healing, rebellious spirit, boldness, determination, and subversiveness of abolitionists to eradicate injustice in and outside of schools.” This is a real #BlackLivesMatter #DisruptTexts #EduColor #MyAsianAmericanStory kind of book that introduces educational reform through activism rooted in “mattering, surviving, resisting, thriving, healing, imagining, freedom, love and joy.” Wow!

Healthcare Disparities

Most books on healthcare disparities are written for academics or medical practitioners, and that is a shame. We all participate in the healthcare system and understanding how it works supports us to be better informed consumers and advocates for health equity. I choose Black Man in a White Coat because it not only tells the amazing story of Dr. Damon Tweedy’s journey through medical school and as a practicing physician, but it also examines the intersection of race and medicine in a way that will make you go hmmm…

Housing Discrimination

There are so many post-it notes and yellow highlighting in my copy of The Color of Law that I’m sure they’ve added an extra half pound to its weight. Richard Rothstein, a leading authority on housing policy, covers decades of policies enacted by local, state and federal government agencies and court decisions blatantly sanctioning segregation. I was horrified to read about these facts, terribly saddened that these truths are not common knowledge, and inspired to do more to change this reality.

Wealth Gap

I’ve always heard that a major reason why the wealth gap exists between blacks and whites is that blacks do not keep their dollars by buying within their own communities. Mehrsa Baradaran’s The Color of Money: Black Banks and the Racial Wealth Gap dispels this myth that black communities could ever create wealth in a segregated economy. Baradaran connects the dots and shows how structural racism and the policies that have been laid out have resulted in racial wealth gap. This book is also a great one to listen to as an audio book if you want to easily understand the general themes.

Voter Suppression

Stacey Abram’s work on voter suppression and Fair Fight greatly heightened my awareness about elections and voter rights. I have always suspected that the scenes of election rigging in Netflix’s House of Cards were close to the truth and will continue to learn more, so that I can do more to prevent it. Carol Anderson’s One Person, No Vote explains how voter suppression works (gerrymandering, poll closures, photo ID requirements) and explores how resistance can effectively work. Learning about the history of voter suppression is essential to voting rights activism today.

Criminal Justice Reform

Bryan Stevenson’s Just Mercy is a stand-out among books those that show just how broken our criminal justice system is, especially for black and brown Americans. What makes this book a Getting To We pick is captured in the title. We all can exercise the gift of mercy toward someone who has done wrong and we all could use mercy when we have done wrong. Bryan Stevenson provides us with a pathway toward equal justice and just being better people. The book is a classic and so worth reading for the depth and nuances of the story that cannot be adequately captured even in such a great movie.

For a Deeper Dive

Discussion Highlights

“Love this list! It is ROCK SOLID! Thank you for being you Dr. Plummer! I’m spreading more word. Lotsa love from your old neighborhood…Forest Hill in East Cleveland Heights.” — Adele DiMarco

“What great recommendations! As an avid reader myself I’m always on the lookout for great books, especially when it comes to racial justice. My freshman year of college , my recommended reading was “Between the World and Me” by Ta-Nehisi Coates and it really opened my eyes to the racial disparities experienced by Black people. Thanks again for the recommendations. I’ll definitely put them on my list.” — Sara Espinosa

“These are such great book recommendations. This is a great place to start for anyone who is seeking to understand how racism is ingrained and operates throughout several sectors of both the public and private sectors of society.” — Raven Bailey

“Loving these book recommendations. As an urbanist, many of my closest friends work and study in the urban planning and community development fields. I’d love to see the book “The Color of Law” integrated into urban studies and urban planning programs – it seems like an essentially read for the urban studies related fields.” — Anonymous

“Thanks for your book recommendations! I just finished reading “Just Mercy” and look forward to watching it on Netflix this weekend. Another must-read I want to recommend is “Mindful of Race” by Ruth King. King takes a meditative and Buddhist approach to racial healing and awareness, much like Resmaa Menakem’s “My Grandmother’s Hands.”” — Dania Rivas

“George Floyd’s tragedy has caused us to feel a range of different emotions in the last few weeks. I’ve heard many of us ask, “what (more) can I do?” Reading books is a good place to start, especially for those of us who are book worms AND still under quarantine. I found these 6 brilliant books very relevant. Sometimes, we need to look back in order to move forward. Let us get to know the history, formation, and development of racial inequalities in the US. We can always learn more.” — Pricilla Cheung

“Excellent list of books. “Just Mercy” is now on Netflix.” — Marla Hunter

“Also Stamped from the Beginning – The History of Racist Ideas by Ibram X. Kendi” — Lara

Racism’s Groundhog Day

Although the origins are unclear, the tradition of the groundhog predicting the weather dates back to 1887. If the groundhog, Punxsutawney Phil, named after the city in Pennsylvania where Groundhog Day is annually celebrated on February 2nd, sees his shadow, we’ve got six more weeks of winter. If not, we’re good for an early spring. The 1993 movie of the same name features Bill Murray as a disgruntled weatherman assigned to film the celebration in the small town. Because of his negative attitude, he becomes trapped in a time loop forcing him into an endless experience of Groundhog Day.

It’s June 2, 2020 and a rerun of the comedy television show Black-ish is airing. This episode was first aired on February 22, 2016 and the plot line reflects the then current reality of police brutality. In the episode, the Johnson family, like many real-life families, gathers around their television to watch a news report of yet another unarmed black man by police officers. The community has gathered in protest of police violence and in solidarity with the Black Lives Matter Movement.

Discussing to the news coverage, the grandfather quotes from Malcolm X and the grandmother encourages the teenage son, who wants to actively participate in the movement. Her encouragement comes with lessons learned from her own activism in the 1960’s and she tells him to be disruptive but respectful, especially toward police officers. His father and grandfather opine and go deeper into the complexity of how the teenage son should respond to the police. They warn him that respecting the police and doing what is asked still may not save his life. His mother’s anxiety heightens at the very thought of her son’s participation, and her nervousness is visible as she attempts to explain the situation in a hopeful tone to his younger siblings. Then they were referencing the police violence against Eric Garner, Tamir Rice, Michael Brown, Freddie Gray and Sandra Bland in the episode. If the episode were taped today, the script would be the same. They would only need to add to list Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor and George Floyd.

In the fantasy comedy film, Groundhog Day, Bill Murray’s character escapes the time loop by finally changing his ways and reporting the day’s festivities with an upbeat attitude instead of being cynical, helping people throughout the day, and falling in love with a woman who befriends him. As a result of his changed behavior, he awakens the next day to February 3rd.

In the Black-ish episode, after discussing the pros and cons, the Johnsons decide to participate in the protests as a family, fortified by the belief that their children and the next generation have learned the lessons and represent hope for the future.

In both of the movie and television show, the future is brighter due to positive attitude, changed behavior and steadfast hope. The groundhog has seen its shadow on racism in America and we continue in the dark of winter. We have been here before. We are here again. Will we get to a better future together?

More on combating racism

Discussion Highlights

Readers connected the metaphor of repeating history with real-world racial inequities. They emphasized the need for changed behavior, collective action, and maintaining hope despite systemic challenges.

“The connections between the movie and the series are spot-on. It is unfortunate that there still hasn’t been any significant change in the system and the events like police brutality and violence against protestors seems to happen again and again. I loved your take on how we can hopefully disrupt the cycle…by working together. I think that is specially relevant today because as long as people remain divided, there won’t be a huge difference.” — Sara Espinosa

“It is too bad to read this article and know that even more names have been added to the list, not limited to that of George Floyd. It can be difficult to take an optimistic approach to the news, when it continuously reminds us of the corruption that is present in the systems which govern our lives. It is common for people to ‘turn off the news’ because it is ‘too hard to watch’. This is their way of maintaining comfort and not being faced with the decision to stand against corruption or be complacent in it. I consider this ‘tuning out’ to be in line with the saying ‘ignorance is bliss’ – it allows people to stay ‘optimistic’. However, the Johnson family shows us that it is possible to tune-in to what is going on, while simultaneously maintaining an optimism that is rooted in our hope, and collective action, toward a better, more equitable future for all.” Olivia West: “We are here again. Great perspective on the fact that the solution to the problem is CHANGED behavior and hope. We know the answer, now to execute. It is a challenge for us all as we move forward but into the same issues.” — Anonymous

“The concept of the Groundhog movie day is such a great metaphor to explain how history is doomed to repeat itself if we do not learn from it. Over the past decade alone, we have seen countless lives of black men and women end with very similar stories and unfortunate outcomes resulting in a lack of accountability and disinterest in empathizing with the victims. Until this country can acknowledge that these are not isolated incidents and that it is the result of longstanding systematic oppression, these things will inevitably continue to happen.” — Raven Bailey

“‘The future is brighter due to positive attitude, changed behavior and steadfast hope.’ During the last few weeks, and with uncertainty of what the election outcome will be in November, it can certainly be easy to feel drained, lose hope and/or be overwhelmed by fear. But these 3 things are what we will have to rely on to fight this battle. For me, I am hopeful to see the many (difficult, racial) dialogues beginning to take place across the country, across family tables and business meetings. Living in Europe, I am hopeful to see that the BLM has spread over here as well. So let’s hope the next thing we will see is changed behavior!” — Pricilla Cheung

What Questions Can I Ask To Ensure My Organization is Dismantling Its Systemic Racism?

This is a great question! Because systemic racism does not always have an identifiable, individual perpetrator, it lives in an organization in its policies, practices, and procedures that work to keep the status quo and to benefit Whites. Here are some questions you can ask to explore how your organization is addressing and eradicating systemic racism:

  1. Executive Leadership: What is the racial make-up of the senior leadership team and the board of the organization? Are there People of Color, particularly Blacks, in roles outside of Human Resources and the Chief Diversity & Inclusion Officer?
  2. Culture of Impact vs Culture of Fit: Are the hiring and promotion practices focused on creating a culture of fit designed around who can get along best with the current administration and who fits the existing organizational culture… or do the hiring and promotion practices focus on building a culture of impact by hiring those who are aligned with the organization’s current needs and who can best achieve the mission and meet the business objectives?
  3. Accountability: What measures are in place to ensure that equity goals are being achieved? Are there any consequences for not meeting stated goals?
  4. Transparency: Are policies openly known and understood, visible and communicated to everyone, and consistently applied to every employee?
  5. Responsiveness: When a racially-charged complaint is made, are the investigators knowledgeable and competent in managing racial dynamics? How is their competency determined and evaluated? What are the number of complaints of racism? Are these tracked? How are complainants protected?
  6. Education: Does the organization have specific antiracism training for leadership and training that is available to the entire workforce?
  7. Resources: What financial resources are being devoted to achieving racial equity within the organization and within the communities that the organization serves?
  8. Approach: Are Blacks and other People of Color experienced as the problem or as problem solvers? Are racial differences treated as a threat to be feared, or is everyone engaged with learning how to build the competencies necessary to leverage racial differences to enhance productivity and creativity? Are Whites engaged, supported, and encouraged to do their own racial identity work and explore their race’s impact on their thinking, behavior, decision-making and governance within the organization?
  9. Sustainability: Does the work and investment on racial equity extend beyond a written communication and company statement? Is racial equity specifically named and included in strategic plans? What organizational structures are in place to support sustainability?

Discussion Highlights

Readers appreciated the practical guidance for organizational leaders to address systemic racism, highlighting the importance of representation, transparency, and structural changes. Emphasis was placed on meaningful action beyond surface-level initiatives.

“This is a great guide for companies and organizations to follow to make sure they are making tangible efforts towards equity and inclusion and ensuring that they are making a difference beyond ‘cute’ marketing campaigns. I’m really glad you mentioned the importance of representation and the need to continuously maintain the structural and cultural changes. There is always more work to be done!” — Raven Bailey

“Good points! I think transparency and also making sure everyone is aware of the goals and have a common language to talk about it is very important. For #1, I think this is tricky for many companies because even though a company is really committed to ED&I, it doesn’t mean you can randomly fire a senior management person just because he/she is white. I think placing POC in leadership position is absolutely important, but that takes time and planning. One recommendation I learned from my recent reading is to shift the focus to building up ‘diversity in the internal talent pipeline…(which) can keep offering top talent and replenishing it as it inevitably moves on.’” — Pricilla Cheung

“Great point…it is not just about representation but how does that representation fundamentally change how the organization practices for the good of the whole and achieving its mission and driving business objectives.” — Deborah L Plummer

How is Calling the Coronavirus the China Virus Racist?

It is first important to understand that there are many form of racism (see isms matrix completed) and intentionally calling Covid19 the China Virus is a modern form of racism. Modern forms of racism are far more nuanced and layered than traditional forms such as the 2017 Unite the Right Rally in Charlottesville; however, the negative impact on the targeted population is the same. The World Health Organization and Center for Disease Control and Prevention have repeatedly encouraged people to call the disease by its scientific name, Covid19. Calling it the “China Virus” breeds xenophobia and and has a real impact on Asian Americans harming their psychological and physical safety. For more context and background, check out Facing History and Ourselves resources for educators.

Discussion Highlights

Readers highlighted how naming the virus after a geographic or ethnic group contributes to xenophobia and harms Asian communities. Comments focus on the broader implications of language and its real-world impact on safety and social perception.

“I think it is called ‘Chinese virus’ not so much ‘China virus’ which presents a greater problem. China is a country name, one can argue that the virus comes from that geographic place, which I do not agree a virus should be named according to a place. However ‘Chinese’ means SO MUCH more – the Chinese language, ethnically Chinese people, which include Hongkongers, Taiwanese, Chinese Malaysians, Chinese Singaporeans, Chinese American, etc. Which is not fair to these people who have zero association with the virus itself and where the virus was first found. I myself as an ethnically-Chinese Hongkonger-American am deeply impacted by this label. I was talking with a friend who is 100% Japanese living in Japan, she also said she felt so unfair that all other Asians got pulled into this for no reason. She even said she was afraid to travel again even after corona, not know how people in Western countries would react to her Asian face.” — Pricilla Cheung

Getting To We Books for 2024

Here are some great books for 2024 to add to your reading list that inspire you to turn us and them into WE in places where you live, work, serve, and socialize.

A More Just Future by Dolly Chug

The subtile of this book is a perfect summary of its message: Psychological Tools for Recocking with Our Past and Driving Social Change. The author, a professor of social psychology, tells her journey of racial awakening after the murder of George Floyd and masterfully combines psychological principles with recommendations on how to deal with current day dynamics of racial differences.: See the Problem; Dress for the Weather; Embrace the Paradox of American History; Connect the Dots Between the Past and the Present; Reject False Obscuring Facts; Take Responsibilty; and Build Grit. There are so many post-it notes in my copy of this book! I plan to go back to the pages again and again with the work we are doing to enhance gender solidarity to achieve racial equity. For those who have read Robin DiAngelo’s White Fragility, this book has a much, much better developed thesis with solid contemporary reasearch to back its recommendatons. In Getting To We language, it calls people in rather than calls people out. Worth the read.

The First Ladies by Marie Benedict and Victoria Christopher Murray

I wrote about the very real friendship of First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt and civil rights advocate (dubbed First Lady of the Struggles), Mary McLeod Bethune, in my book on cross-racial friendships. This book, as historical fiction, uses historical facts heavily reasearched by the authors and extrapolates from these facts information to fill in how they would have related to each other in their friendship and how they would have managed the fight for racial equity in their lived experiences. Alternating chapters in the voice of Eleanor and Mary, the reader gets both points of view on what is was like to fight for racial equity from 1927-1945. This book is a great read for Getting To We’s Women’s Social Trust Movement and demonstrates the challenges and opportunies present in enhancing gender solidarity to achieve racial equity. Clearly, Eleanor and Mary could have participated in one of our Bridging and Bonding Women’s Social Trust Retreats and would have been featured in our documentary Trust in Black and White!

Why Does Everything Have To Be About Race? by Keith Boykin

This is a great title and the book is even better as Boykin clearly answers the book title’s question with each chapter of the book conveniently laid out to address subsequent questions about erasing Black history, centering White victimhood, denying Black oppression, myths of Black inferiority, and rebranding racism. In our current zeitgeist where ignorance about American history is prized as a political tool to manipulate the less informed, this book is a must read. It is a great go-to book to have new conversations about the old topic of race.

Black AF History: The Un-Whitewashed Story of America by Michael Harriot

The title of this book also says it all. Journalist, Michael Harriot weaves in his life experiences and a lot of wit to present little known and consciously hidden facts in American history. There’s a lot to learn and unlearn with this book. However, reader beware— he does paint Whites with a sweeping brush to make his point of telling an un-whitewashed version; so, I would recommend reading this book along with Dolly Chug’s A More Just Future to map out how we create a society that works for everyone and just doesn’t flip the script.

Better Humans Better Performance by Peter Rea, James K. Stoller and Alan Kolp

I listened to this book on Audible and then had my husband pick me up a copy so that I could highlight sentences (old school I know, can’t figure out the highlighting book mark function with audio books!). I admit, I was a bit skeptical about this recommendation from a colleague as it can appear that using the classical virtues (what were those?) to amplify to work performance might be a way to undercut and dismiss DEIB principles. However, I was happily surprised that there is a little more than a nod to DEIB in the book—at least DEIB is treated in a way that invites questions and encourages dialogue about contemporary work competencies for achieving results. The authors demonstrate how fostering character through the seven classic virtures—trust, compassion, courage, justice, wisdom, temperance, hope—can lead to better performance in organizations, i.e. the title Better Humans, Better Performance. I really liked how the chapters are laid out with lots of research backed by examples and key takeaways clearly outlined in each chapter. This book is also clearly aligned with Getting To We’s goal of becoming better humans for other humans and makes a strong case that in the workplace it leads to furthering an organization’s mission and achieveing business objectives. A win/win!

Can’t We Just Agree to Disagree?

To quote James Baldwin, “ We can disagree and still love each other unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist.” Having the competencies necessary to successfully navigate our increasingly multicultural society is imperative in places where we work, live, serve, worship, and socialize. In our polarized society, our ability to shape a positive future is determined not only by how we support, trust, and collaborate with those with whom we agree…but by how we understand, treat, and work with those with whom we disagree, especially on issues critical to achieving inclusion and belonging goals in organizations and communities.

Getting To We requires relating to each other in our core identity as humans which means using humanizaing language and working to call people in rather than calling people out. It’s not easy to do. Check out the resources on our resource page.

Getting To We Books for 2023

Summer is known for picking up books that are great “beach reads,” a book that will keep you engaged and not serious enough to interrup your vacation mood. However, summer is also a time when the workload lightens a bit which gives us time to pick up a book that inspires and challenges us to turn us and them into we. Here are four books that will feed the thalamus with new ways of knowing while keeping you motivated and energized to make positive change.

The Upswing: How America Came Together a Century Ago and How WE Can Do It Again by Robert D. Putnam

I am a fan of Harvard Public Policy Professor Putman’s work on social capital and loved his book Bowling Alone. This book captures themes across time that contribute to the I-WE-I cycle that America finds itself in. In other words, the past is the prologue. The book characterizes the Gilded Age and shows its similarities to current times. It’s a great analysis but don’t expect a formula for how to make culture change happen but a map for how cultural change has occured in the past. His insights point us to the kind of initiatives that have a proven track record of turning us and them into we. The two chapters on race and gender made me happy as they reinforce that Getting To We’s initiatives for strenghtening gender solidarity to achieve racial equity are on the right track.

Currency of Empathy: The Secret to Thriving in Business & Life by Jacqueline Acho, PhD

This is my go-to book for examining how empathy fosters building social trust. Empathy is the lynchpin for creating inclusive organizations, peaceful communities and a healthy democratic society. I have read many books on empathy for my writing and research, and this book by far not only offers fresh insights but is wonderfully inspiring. It’s an easy read because of the writing style of the author. Jackie offers a great deal of substantive research and neatly explains the difference between affective and cognitive empathy. This book is a must read for leaders, educators, civic and community advocates of getting to we. We lost Jackie in December 2022 after a battle with ovarian cancer. She will be remembered not only for her contribution to the scholarship on empathy but for her rich relationships born out of empathy and her magnificent, inspiring life journey chronicled in her blog on cancer, death and dying.

Inclusion on Purpose by Ruchika Tulshyan

We often think about inclusion as a feeling that we have towards others, but as this book illustrates inclusion is a action and a choice that requires work and know how. The work of fostering inclusion and belonging can’t be done in identity compartments but is expressed through our multiple and intersecting identities. Tulshyan offers user-friendly frameworks for how we can actually bring our full and authentic selves to the workplace.

Harvard Business Review Racial Justice

After the murder of George Floyd in 2020 businesses joined the nation in calling for racial justice by deepening DEIB efforts in the workplace. Yet, over the past two years these efforts have waned and some have even been disbanded as a result of political blowback and fear mongering. This compendium of articles reminds us why companies must step up and continue working towards racial equity and how we can all make a difference in small and big ways.